They say it takes time to mourn and move on.
They say that it gets easier with time.
They say time heals all wounds.
They say wounds heal with time.
They say cry me a river, build me a bridge and get over it.
My question is have “They” ever lost?
Lost someone or an animal so close to them that a piece of them dies as well?
I doubt it.
It doesn’t get easier with time….time just keeps moving and you have to force yourself to go with it too. Especially since you're an adult and have adult responsibilities, like bills and a job and a so-called “life”.
“They” are wrong in every way. You can’t say goodbye even though your cat has already passed. Black cats remind you of him and well the house just isn’t the same. There’s no meowing, no void of following.
Time doesn’t heal all wounds, it barely mends them. Again, you’re just forced to move on and suppress your emotion from dealing with them. You can’t take a week-long vacation or personal days. You have had no easy breaks in regards to this.
You had to put Hugo down the third to last day of your last job. It was a Monday. Last day was Wednesday. You started your new job, yup, Thursday. No PTO, no vacation, no rest.
No going into solitude and just staring into the abyss and wondering why.
I was there for his last breath, to try and comfort him. Stage 2 kidney disease doesn’t take long. However, I do miss him and his headbutts. He is no longer in pain. I have the rest of my babies and I am thankful.
Hugo was the first animal I had to make the decision to put down. All the animals before I was just the taxi-to bring them to the vet and be with them while they pass.
I miss my cat dearly.
I truly think the world needs to accept animal deaths as a family death. Animals are part of the family, we need time to grieve, mourn, frankly accept what the fuck just happened, and how much our lives have changed.
Just remember it's ok to cry.
Until next time-a different point of view-Rori Lelu
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